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Thanksgiving In Singapore: Expat Lamorindans, $120 Turkeys, and Mr. Hoe

A former neighbor, scribe, and correspondent writes to say hello to old friends, point out a few differences between your Thanksgiving and her family's, and to announce the long-awaited Zampa Caroling Extravaganza.

Fall is our family's favorite season. For 17 years it was heralded by the leaves changing on the rolling hills of Burton Valley, the slight nip in the air, the scent of wood burning in fireplaces. The anticipation grew for the holidays and the conviviality surrounding them: running into our friends on Merriewood Drive during trick-or-treating, or at Diablo Foods while shopping for Thanksgiving dinner. And then there was the tingle of excitement at seeing the first Christmas lights go up on a house. 

Yeah, well, that was then. This is what it looks like here in Singapore:

The leaves in the jungle stay the same year round. The only hint at a changing season is the arrangement of flowers in our lobby. At the moment they are orange. 

The only nip in the air is at the Lido Cinema down the street; it's always over air-conditioned. The only wood burning smell comes from Indonesia when they thin the forests.

The Christmas lights are already going up on Orchard Boulevard, as well as huge fake trees in front of the malls, the ugliest of which is a burnt umber color.  Last year it looked like a giant stuffed himself with tinsel and lights and puked all over the town. But in a good way. 

I guess it's OK the lights are up before Thanksgiving because there is no Thanksgiving here in Singapore. When Sir Stamford Raffles colonized the place, the natives -- Malay and a few Chinese -- were probably serving Nasi Lemak, a rice dish served with anchovies, peanuts and chili paste. 

But with 22,000 Americans now living in Singapore, there's no way the holiday goes unnoticed. This is our first Thanksgiving in town. Last year Mike and I were at Peter's basketball tournament in Hong Kong; dinner was at a noodle joint. This year Peter is heading from Boston University to New York City, where he will be joined by other family-less Singapore American School graduates who attend college on the East Coast. Lauren will again be with friends in Los Angeles. 

We are combatting our homesickness with what started to be a small, civilized gathering in our home. My friend Anna (from Piedmont, originally -- we were virtually introduced by Moraga's Brigid Wonder), her husband Russell, and two teenage sons are coming over. I bought new place mats and plan to use my good china. We decided to order a cooked turkey from one of several places that offer them. We can't trust my oven to do the job … it consistently overcooks or undercooks the food. (And don't even get me started with the stove -- it's either boiling, or almost boiling.)

A 15-lb. cooked turkey with chestnut stuffing and gravy costs anywhere from $79 to $210. We opted for somewhere in the middle because they'll deliver it. A Hoe is making it.

Mr. Hoe is a legend in Singapore. He works out of the cafeteria at the Singapore American School and makes the best fried rice on the island. Peter ate it for lunch almost every day. Moms love Mr. Hoe because he'd sell food to go, in case they were too busy playing Mah Jong or tennis that day to cook. 

Apparently a Hoe turkey is one of the best. We'll see. But now, in typical  fashion for our family gatherings, we've expanded. Much to our joy, one of our best friends is flying here to spend Thanksgiving with us; he will also put up our Christmas tree, as he did for the 17 years we lived in Lafayette. And, Russell's boss is coming to dinner too -- with his girlfriend, his 4 year-old son, and two maids. This is fine. They are bringing lumpia and wine. 

And yes, the booze adds a whole other dimension to entertaining, mostly in that it is stinking expensive. We have to plot out our liquor supply very carefully, not wanting to run out of, say, Bombay Sapphire Gin. A liter costs $72 in Singapore grocery stores. At the duty free at Changi Airport, it's $27. Our friend has already been given instructions to pick up a bottle on his way in. Unfortunately, only one liter is allowed at the time, per person. Thank goodness there will be four of us over the age of 18 coming back into the country after Christmas! We'll be set for months!

Dinner may be on paper plates, and we'll sit wherever we find an empty spot on the floor. But the point is, we'll be giving thanks. It's been a crazy 16 months here in Singapore and we are grateful to have friends here who make it bearable.

We'll give thanks that Peter left us his X-Box 360 so we can watch the DVD of "Home for the Holidays," our traditional Thanksgiving movie. 

We are also grateful for our friends from home who pop in every so often, mostly for business. In September, we took Lafayette's Andrew Huddart to the Greek restaurant around the corner, where the Singaporean waiters do Zorba's dance and throw plates. You don't know whether to join in or hope for a rally in the ninth inning. 

In June, I took Lafayette's Suzanne Margerum to a SAS graduation party at a huge mansion, where there was a live band and a Mini-Cooper-sized "CLASS OF 2011"  ice sculpture. Moraga's Edward Thomas treated us to dinner this month at a restaurant that is our favorite because the decor and music reminds us of being in Paris or New York City, except for the frangipani trees outside. Lafayette's Scott Gaylord and his girlfriend stayed with us after traveling for five weeks in Vietnam and Thailand. And finally, Moraga's David Cogswell pops in and out on a regular basis but that is coming to an end as his teaching gig here is over. We will miss him.

Most of all, we'll be giving thanks that in a few weeks we will be seeing our friends back in Lamorinda for Christmas. The annual Mike Zampa Christmas Caroling Extravaganza is at 7 p.m. Tuesday, Dec. 20 in Lafayette's downtown park in front of the Squirrel coffee shop. We hope to see you there!

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Napoleon Solo May 21, 2013 at 10:55 am
I agree with all of that. I consider myself rather recent to either of those sites so I'll defer toRead More your knowledge of it. My issue with Patch was how they seem to try to create tension and arguments, and especially if they get a good fight going, seem to bring in groups that clearly are not local. I have little interest in debating issues with someone from Fremont, for example. I agree that News is doing a great job of local coverage. I can infer from some of the bits of information that one of their writers lives within a few blocks of me.
Chris Nicholson May 21, 2013 at 10:42 am
NapSol: News24-680 has its flaws, but I haven't heard other complaints about censorship. It's aRead More crew of people who were doing "hyper local" reporting BEFORE Patch came to town and they seem to be poised to outlive Patch. We'll see. Even before the big reductions in editorial/reporting resources per Patch site, News 24-680 seemed to do a better job covering core local stories-- albeit with less overall content/audience than here. Some of the regional/generic Patch stories are, IMHO, fine. But if Patch loses even more of its local flavor I suspect interest/traffic will wane.
Napoleon Solo May 21, 2013 at 09:53 am
I'm not sure what it means to "move to" the news24-680 site. Converation there does notRead More seem to be encouraged beyond shallow "me too" kind of comments. If there are any conversations of any substance there, I have yet to find them. I know some or many of the discussions here were disfunctional, but at least there were conversations. I did a test posting there yesterday and it was censored or at least never showed up. My post was in response to an interview of a St. Mary's economist who is against trying to lower the $1 trillion dollar federal deficit spending. I did not say anything disrespectful as I recall, but I guess it was censored cause it contained actual ideas. By the way, I used to be an economist on one of the largest trading floors in the world, so in my opinion, its OK for me to have a different view. The News people I guess don't think so. Will still look at it cause it has some nice local news but its not for participating.
Daniel Robbins May 23, 2013 at 09:00 am
It is an important opportunity for parents and teachers to connect; both to hear what is happeningRead More in the classroom and share how their students/ kids are doing. If anything, I think we need to make our high schools more 'open' so that parents, administrators, students and teachers can ALL work together to make our kids high school experience the best it can be.
Chris Nicholson May 19, 2013 at 09:38 am
LamoMan: "Back to school" is beginning of year and "Open House" is toward theRead More end. W/R/T high school, I agree with you that it's not as fun as K-5. I was disappointed, for example, to see no exemplary integral homework stapled to the wall of Calculus class-- I love the funny f/s hybrid symbol. Basically, I was bullied into attending by my wife (and the lure of Taco Truck catering). In seriousness, it was nice to stop by and (re)connect names and faces and be reminded of the dedication and talent of many (but not, ahem, all) of the teachers we're lucky enough to have here.
LamorindaMan May 18, 2013 at 11:46 pm
I don't have children so maybe I'm missing something. But, what is the point of an open house at theRead More high school level and what is the point of an open house at the end of the school year? What do they do at open house for high schoolers?
Vincent Carter May 17, 2013 at 01:21 am
At $400,000 of Tax Payer money i expected it to be the Contract Negotaitor.
Carlos Garcia May 16, 2013 at 04:43 pm
I imagine the person was a trainer
lovelafayette May 15, 2013 at 10:44 am
This brochure took a lot of work by a small group of people, supported by a cast of 400! We needRead More your help! PRINT AND SHARE AND POST this great flyer/sign. Parks is conducting a stealth campaign for BMX, NO PUBLICITY ALLOWED!! Jennifer Russell is hounding me personally using the CODE ENFORCEMENT OFFICER as a tool. I have been threatened with fines and fees, citations and misdemeanors, for informing the public about BMX. “Someone” posted our iconic signs, “Your Park with BMX”, on all the park public forum bulletin boards! No photos of the mystery posters exist, Jennifer lied and told code enforcement I admitted to posting THAT sign. I admitted posting signs about the April 8 meeting, but that is not the sign I am charged with! Please help confound the code enforcement officer by printing and posting and distributing this great flyer. Take it to church, youth group, PTA meetings. We could try our own stealth campaign, all wear Giants baseball hats and black hoodies! The rest of the story is at: WWW.NOLAFAYETTEBIKEPARK.COM and www.lafayettebikepark.com (city site) Suzanne Sommer lovelafayette@msn.com
Beau Behan April 23, 2013 at 03:00 pm
Hi Everyone, Thanks for dropping by PATCH. We really appreciate your taking the time. Hard toRead More imagine at times that Tom Cruise has been in the showbiz for at least three decades now.. It is as if it were just yesterday when I first watched "The Outsiders". We will have more film reviews for you all.. Thanks again. Beau
c5 April 23, 2013 at 02:12 pm
He was great in 'Risky Business', still one of my all time favorites. "Ok, which one of you isRead More the U-boat commander?".... :)
KAC April 22, 2013 at 09:56 pm
Tom Cruise? Pass...
LamorindaMan April 17, 2013 at 10:43 am
Will this workshop benefit motorcyclists? Bicycle riding requires way too much work. I'd rather rideRead More a motorcycle and let the engine do all the heavy lifting.
Napoleon Solo April 16, 2013 at 03:44 pm
They think they are doing something for the environment. When one of my kids had to do a schoolRead More project showing they were using recycled materials, I did not have anything reasonable around and had to go to the store, buy a large soda bottle, and pour it down the drain when I got home so there was a "recycled" item for the project. How did that save the environment?
CJ April 16, 2013 at 03:30 pm
Really?- How long is this farce going to be pushed? This has been going on for what seems likeRead More forever. 10 kids (of Envirotreehuggers) and 2- Environazi's will get on their bikes and ride to school and their nearby offices. While the rest of the reasonable people see this for what it is.....ridiculous. This will never be practical and if you want to be so, then do it without all the nonsense. I used to bike 15miles to my job and back, but that was when I was a wacked out Triathlete trying to qualify for Ironman. It is ridiculous as a daily practice for a myriad of reasons. Sustainable Lafaytette? - I sincerely hope this is not an actual public tax money paid position.
lovelafayette May 20, 2013 at 07:12 am
A dog park in Lafayette has been discussed by the Parks Department for years. Carol Singer, ParksRead More Commissioner always expresses interest but it never goes beyond talking. Parks is in the midst of a major review of CIP projects, email Council or Parks and let them know you want a dog park now! Funding is available, we just need to convince parks this is a priority.
TMoraga April 19, 2013 at 12:49 pm
Hey Paula you don't get it. It doesn't matter what happened. #1 School property is not an off leashRead More location. School district insurance doesn't cover such thing. And yes this is a big liability issue. Dogs! Do not belong on CAMPUS! It really is not hard to understand however if one can't grasp why this is a bad idea they probably should not have a dog in their stewardship either.
Paula Capps April 19, 2013 at 11:28 am
The dog group at Stanley has been going to the school for decades. We have always cleaned up afterRead More the dogs and everyone gets along beautifully. It's been a strong sense of community I myself gained from the group of kind and friendly owners. The incident that stemmed this has become distorted. There are other witnesses besides the parents who literally screamed at a very nice mild mannered young man. They cursed at him and treated him like dirt. What kind of an example was that to a child? His dog was not mean, excited yes, but in fact the dog diid NOT even touch the little girl. The girl chased after the dog's rolling ball. The dog came toward her to claim his ball. She freaked out and started screaming. Instead of talking to the little girl and man in instructive and calm ways to show dog and child all was ok the parents made themselves look crazy and the poor man was verbally abused. Dogs need to run and play just like people. I'd like to add it is a fine to throw food wrappers, bottles, cap tops, and unwanted food all over the field, and most anywhere in this lovely Bay Area we all share. l have picked up hands full, two and times each night. Why are parents allowing this? We have a beautiful place to live here please teach children to respect our earth. They'll be around here longer than the adults at this writing.